The Wedding Invitation that Caught Colleagues by Surprise

Law Chun-bong - Deputy News Editor, ATV

[Jan 2011 - The Journalist]  A video produced by my wife’s colleagues and shown at our wedding banquet reveals that many of her co-workers were completely unaware we were engaged. It took them by surprise when they received our invitation to the banquet. This shows that we have been keeping our relationship at very low-profile while working respectively for two different media corporations.

Perhaps my habit of keeping our relationship secret was developed during my school days when writing too much on the topic “whether secondary school students should be in love.” I ended up furthering the issue to “whether office romance should be allowed?” The answer appears to me as “no way”.

When both of us were working together for Commercial Radio some ten years ago, we tried hard not to appear to be too close in the office to hide our relationship. We never asked the editors to put us on the same schedule fearing that they might think we were unprofessional. Maybe, we were too old-fashioned in our thinking and thus behaved this way. The fact is, no boss cares about your love life as long as you are competent at your work.
What a secretive couple! Even the photo they took was only a silhouette.

Only recently we found our own behaviour laughable. ‘May Tse’, who was our supervisor in the newsroom, had already spotted our relationship ever since our very early days in Commercial Radio - even we though we had been good at keeping it secret. It was not until we were about to get married that ‘May Tse’ eventually disclosed her observation to us.

Rivalry at NPC meeting

There have been a lot of memorable and interesting moments in our life over the past ten years, studying and working together.

While working respectively for ATV and Commercial Radio, both of us were sent to cover a flood in Harbin back in 1998. The difficult journey became less thorny but more memorable when we took care of each other on the trip.

In fact, working for different media corporations help lessen conflicts between a couple. Sometimes we shared our workload as most journalists would do on business trips. But we may suddenly turn into rivals when both of us get onto exclusive news at the same function. One of the best examples is the annual National People’s Congress meeting at which journalists from different competing media corporations would join in alliance to share major common news. For exclusive news we would become completely tight-lipped, not leaking even tiniest hint to anyone, including my girlfriend, who is now my wife.

Like other journalists, both of us are fully aware of professional ethics of keeping our exclusive news confidential and never feeling guilty about such practices. It is also against our principle to make use of our relationship to spy on each other's work.

It is only when we have completed our job that we would share our experiences to help make improvement in healthy competition, instead of trying to beat and upset each other. I guess this is a good way to spot our own weaknesses by learning from each other. This would help not only improve our work performance but also nourish our love and relationship even more.

Translated by Patsy Moy